[Skip to Content]

29 October 2013

Should I let my children go trick or treating?

Should I let my children go trick or treating?

Do we just go with the flow, and let our kids dress as ghosts and witches, without any kind of spiritual reflection?

I am generally pro-American – I love the country, like the people, and could happily live there – but I do not like some American imports. I don't drink Coke or eat McDonald's and I am not that keen on the idea of 'proms'. The school disco of my youth was bad enough, why ramp up the pressure with a prom?!

And then there is Halloween.

Before ET hit our screens in 1982, hardly anyone in Britain bothered with Halloween, but somehow the cinematic representation of a bug-eyed, reptilian alien, going trick or treating birthed a new social phenomenon. Fast-forward 31 years and Halloween is massive, economically and socially. What should Christian parents do in response? Do we batten down the hatches, lock our front doors, cut ourselves off from society, put our fingers in our ears, sing 'la-la-la' and pretend nothing is happening? Do we just go with the flow, and let our kids dress as ghosts and witches, without any kind of spiritual reflection? Do we hold alternative 'light festivals' and attempt the kind of takeover that an earlier generation managed when pagan Saturnalia morphed into Christian Christmas? Or, is there a better approach?

When my children were very young I tended towards the 'ignore and deny' approach, not opening the door to trick ortreaters and certainly not allowing my kids onto the street. I resented this American import on cultural and spiritual grounds, and didn't want my children to have any part in deeds of darkness. Over time, however, my attitude has softened. Partly this has been for theological reasons, with an increasing appreciation of the Lordship of Christ over all things I have realised that I do not need to be nervous that my children might somehow be spiritually infected through Halloween. "Greater is he that is in us than he who is in the world." The greatest con trick the devil can pull against Christian parents is to make them more afraid of his power than they are of the all-conquering power of Christ.

I have also become more relaxed for cultural reasons. I might object to what Steven Spielberg unleashed in 1982, but for my kids that is such ancient history it is irrelevant. The world they and their friends have grown up in is one in which Halloween has always played a prominent part, and this means that if we are to engage with their culture we can't just pretend Halloween doesn't happen.

My third softening has been the result of more missional thinking. We have worked hard at cultivating friendships with our neighbours but a lot of that good will could be lost if we shut our door to their children on 31 October. The reality is when they take their kids out trick or treating they are not deliberately entering into pagan worship – they are merely out for some fun. For us to shun them for this would look as weird as it would be to ban Guy Fawkes night.

Practically, what this means for my family is this: we don't send our kids out trick or treating, because fundamentally we still don't much like it, and part of our Christian freedom is the ability to not enter into everything our culture promotes. But we do keep our door open, and we do have a stash of sweets to give away. Halloween is just one more opportunity to build friendship with our neighbours, and we're not going to close the door on that. Given the opportunity, we speak to our friends about spiritual realities and why we would not encourage our kids to make a big deal of Halloween. But we don't get spooky about it, because we are confident in the power of Christ that is at work in us. As a Christian parent my job is not to scare my kids with how big the devil is but to disciple them in how great Jesus is. If they are clear on that they'll be able to navigate the choppy waters of Halloween well enough; just as they will need to navigate many other social and ethical challenges in the years ahead.

Lots of people enjoy a coke and burger, and proms are here to stay. These things are not to my taste but I'm not going to stop other people from enjoying them or be judgmental about their enjoyment of them. I do think there is a better way to live though, with healthier outcomes, and hope that I can be a witness to that in some way. Halloween feels pretty much the same to me.

For resources and statistics visit the Alliance's Halloween resource page

You might also be interested in

Permissions: Articles published in idea may be reproduced only with permission from the Editor and must carry a credit line indicating first publication in idea. About idea Magazine
For advertising details please contact Candy O'Donovan - c.odonovan@eauk.org or 020 7520 3846