Kim & Dee's Story

After 21 years of marriage, Kim finally came to know the Jesus who Dee had been telling him about

After 21 years of marriage, Kim finally came to know the Jesus who Dee had been telling him about

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I certainly wasn't gonna be one of those where
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wife goes to church and I didn't.
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But it was like being on the outside looking in.
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My name's Kim.
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My name is Dee.
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[Both] This is our story.
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I grew up in the home of Salvationist parents
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and it wasn't something they put on with their uniform.
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It was something that completely overwhelmed every day
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and every moment of their lives.
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When I began going out with my wife, Dee, I realised that
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that was so deep in her that I wanted to find out
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why her faith was so unshakeable.
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He said to me one day,
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"Do we have to go to church tonight?"
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And I said, "No, of course we don't."
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And he said, "Oh great."
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And I said, "But I wanna go, because that's what I do,
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and that's who I am and if you can't understand my faith
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then you won't ever really understand me."
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But even that wasn't the warning bell that,
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that marrying somebody who wasn't saved
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was going to be complicated.
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There's a lot of temptations in the military lifestyle.
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Booze is cheap, there's a lot of partying.
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Friday night is party night.
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And most of experience of
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church and Christians
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had been quite touchy feely.
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It can be difficult as a wife, a Christian wife of a
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non-Christian husband in as much as you think,
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"If I were a better witness,
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if I were better at living this out,
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at looking more like Jesus he'd really get this."
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We had this Christian men's group,
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we met at seven o'clock in the morning.
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And it was talking about making faith
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relevant for men.
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Which really made the difference.
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I woke up about 1:30 in the morning,
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and song running through my head
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about my chains fell off.
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And I felt just a surge of heat running through my body.
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And a voice in my head saying, "You're forgiven."
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That was the point at which it became real for me.
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I was absolutely elated and felt incredibly humbled
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because although I'd not been faithful in praying for Kim
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every day, God knew my heart for him.
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One of the shocking things was that a lot of people said,
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"We didn't know he wasn't a Christian."
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You can't assume because people live a good life
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that they actually are in relationship with Jesus.
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The impression that people have got of Jesus is of some
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almost feminine kind of person.
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But when we look at the life He led,
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He was trained as a carpenter.
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He could relate to working men
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and, as I look back,
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I realise there are many times
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when I could really have been in the poo.
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And it's only through God's grace that Jesus is my saviour.
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I feel that we are finally both
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travelling in the same direction.
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There is a bedrock now to our marriage
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that simply wasn't there before.